That CUCKOLD-ing Type Fear

There is such a fear that hovers in the minds (or in the back of their minds, if you want to put it that way), of a lot of couples who wish to get involved in this lifestyle.  Such fear is often shared between the couple or by one of the spouse individually, although for either, it could be separate, and that’s the fear of them losing each other when a third man gets invited into their matrimonial circle.

For a lot of hubbies, the fear are listed below:

“What if the wife falls in love with the bull, and she ends up divorcing me and heading off with him?”

“What if she ends up loving his cock and no longer wants mine anymore?”

“What if he becomes dominating and starts running our lives whichever way he wants?”

A lot of scenarios play in his mind, and such might turn him against wanting to get involved in this lifestyle.  Then there’s the fears coming from the wife:

“What happens if the bull isn’t someone trust-worthy?”

“What if he tries to steal me away from my husband?”

“What if my husband uses this as a weapon to file for divorce?”

A lot of fears to consider, yes indeed.  I’m not here to dissipate such fears, because I believe being alive is enough fear for one person to hold, let alone when there’s two or three of you.  

There’s nothing any person wishes to be involved in that doesn’t hold some amount of fear, and if you’re one of such couples who’s still contemplating this lifestyle, then my suggestion to you is don’t get involved without first reading the blueprint.  Or to make it more understandable, don’t get involved without first weighting in your mind the good and bad of what it’s got to offer.  As much as I’d love for my blog to inspire more couples to be real with themselves and to wake up and indulge in their private fantasies without fear or condemnation, I as well want to share with them whatever misgivings or words of caution they should have before making that perfect leap of faith.

Much of this, I’ve already stated in several previous postings, and I’ll continue to repeat them, should in case any of my readers here are afflicted with some form of short-term memory loss.

1.  Know What You’re Getting Into

In other words, don’t jump into a river without first checking to make sure there aren’t any alligators or crocs waiting to take a bite out of you.  Do not be so moved by your desires of wanting yourself and your spouse to get involved into this lifestyle without first asking yourself those important questions: ‘Why do you want to do this?’, and ‘Of what reason(s) do you desire for this to happen to both of you?’ Yes, it might sound exciting on paper, but still, caution is always the best bet.  Besides, there’s no declaration that being a cuckold is something every couple desires.  It might sound good for the hubby, but don’t think it’s every wife that welcomes the idea of fucking another man while hubby watches, or vice versa.  Whatever you do, make sure your spouse is well aware, too.  Always put him/her in the picture, because this involves your spouse as much as it does you.

2.  Trust

Nothing is going to come to about if there isn’t any measure of trust.  For the hubbies reading this, should you finished talking with the wife about this, let her know – make her know – that you trust her in this just as much as you love her, and that you’ll continue to love her should she decide not to ever want to give it a try.  Now you’ve decided to jump into the river with her, it feels better when you’re both holding hands. 

That way, you know neither of you is going to get separated.  Where there’s love, there should be trust.  No trust, then don’t bother taking a dip at all.  Just watch the sports channel and keep your fantasies locked in the attic where they belong.

3.  Decide How You Want It

Cuckoldry, like I’ve said in the past, is only a name, and to me, it really doesn’t qualify as an appropriate term to call what this lifestyle is about, but it will do.  Being in a cuckold lifestyle is one thing, but making the lifestyle sooth what you and your spouse want is another.  Some couples would prefer a swinging-type of lifestyle, and I can’t fault them on that.  Others prefer something behind closed-doors. 

Whatever it is, know what form of cuckoldry you wish to pursue, and talk it out with your spouse to make sure he/she too agrees with it.  It won’t be good to spring out a surprise on your spouse afterwards.  As much as this is meant to be a sexual adventure for you, make it one for her/him, too, and don’t leave him/her feeling lost about where you want to take things to.  You can surprise your spouse every now and then by doing something kinky, but keep it safe, and always let him/her be aware of the changes you intend to make.

4.  Know Your Bull

I’ve got an article on this subject that I’m going to post after this, but I just want to be more specific here: for every couple or spouse who’ve decided or are about deciding to indulge in this lifestyle, your knowledge about whomever you’re inviting to meet with your wife is very important.  Plenty of couples have asked me questions regarding this, and I’ve always told them the truth: don’t just invite any black man you meet online to come indulge in your fantasy. 

Whatever you do, get to know him first.  Learn to separate what’s fact from what’s fiction, because online, there’s plenty of fiction waiting for you.  Most times it’s just as hard meeting anyone that’s real online, and though it might seem time-wasting, but in the end, sifting through the fake and finding the real can be worth it.

Ask the man questions about himself, learn as much about his life, and check to see if he’s volunteering as much relevant info about himself, or if all he’s saying is a puff of smoke.  Should you decide to go with him, let him be aware of whatever it is you and your wife demand of him.  Yes, when inviting a bull into your home, the line of trust can often become blurry, but as long as he’s someone who doesn’t make a profession out of what he does, then you should be fine.  For those wanting more than one bull for the wife, I’m not putting a stop at what you’re doing, except, take care.  Usually, I still favor having one bull for the wife.  That way should either of you find his presence unwelcoming, it would be easy to terminate his meetings.

5.   Location and Time

Where would you like the cuckold activity to take place: at your home?  At the bull’s home . . . or in a motel?  The choice is up to you and your spouse to decide, however it makes both of you comfortable with. 

This is helpful especially for couples who have kids at home.  Yes, it might be often hard leaving the kids while you and the wife steal out to be with her lover, but for such to happen, you’re both going to need to draw up a time schedule of where and when to meet with him. could be once or twice in a week, or maybe during weekends . . . as long as neither of you decides to bring the kids along to watch (just joking).  There’s equally no harm inviting the bull to your home, as long as there’s that measure of trust involved.  If you, the hubby, decide to stay at home to watch over the kids and leave the wife to her devices, that’s fine.  As long as you and her are both OK and comfortable about it.

6.   Leave a Door Open

When the Lord closes a door, somewhere he leaves open a window. That’s your escape clause. Should there come a time when both of you decide to terminate being involved in this lifestyle, always leave a door open to make that happen. Yes, you can swim as long as you desire in the river, but when the time comes for you to say goodbye and go home, don’t be afraid to declare it. The same goes for when you and the spouse decide to end the fun. Talk it out with her, hear her own side of things and let her know how you, too, feel about it.

Conclusion

These are just some points and ideas to take note of. I know there’s more that I haven’t highlighted, and maybe I’m being narrow-minded using my own wits and experience to state what I know, and I hope a lot of you that’s reading this will forgive me for that. Still, this post is not to take away the fear that might be gnawing at the back of your mind regarding the fears that I listed above, however, its meant to reassure as well add some alleviation to your troubles. Should there be something or other comeuppance you have in mind, do reach out to me, and I’ll see what I can do to help.

I will still state that finding the right bull who’ll be just as perfect for you and the wife is of valuable importance. Making sure that he’s someone of gut principles is another point. A lot of couples have in the past asked me to assist them with finding someone who’d be perfect for them, and I often declined because what I do, I do it alone. I, too, am wary of a lot of black bulls out there. Not that I’m faulting them, just that I see a lot of them online, and it’s as well hard for me to separate their fact from fiction. And another advice I will give to couples out there is this: don’t be intrigued when a black bull presents you with pictures of his erect cock for you to sample the size. 

There’s no way you can judge if that’s actually his or some picture of someone else’s cock that he lifted from some website. When you’re getting to know him, that’s exactly what you should do; know him first, then know his cock second.